What is Co-dependency
Some Common Symptoms of Co-Dependency: Cautionary Note: We all have these behaviors, to some degree. I believe it's called being human. The question is how many, how frequently, and how stressed-out you become as a result of repetitive behavior. Additionally, are you getting feedback you're not paying attention to but need to? If you read further please be compassionate and non-judgmental as well as realistic to the best of your ability.
People pleasing - managing other peoples' feelings so they will like you, not be displeased or angry with you, or to avoid conflict.
Taking care of others at the expense of oneself, which is often motivated by resentment, obligation, depletion or fear.
Having to be in control, know what the plan is, to do it oneself because no one else can be trusted to do it.
Having to be right and not apologizing for mistakes or offenses to others.
Being painfully "allergic" to criticism.
Interpreting criticism as rejection.
Interpreting rejection as abandonment.
Wishing for, longing for, fantasizing about, chasing after the one relationship, high or thing that will finally fill you up.
One up, one down - elevating yourself while putting the other down or vice versa.
Functioning in extremes, lacking balance or moderation, thinking or feeling in all or none, right or wrong and good or bad polar opposites.
Harboring resentments while believing others do not recognize or care about your needs, feelings or experiences. Feeling under appreciated.
Feeling empty, not enough, less than and looking to be filled up from outside yourself.
Having to jump in and fix it, make things better when someone else is in pain, conflict or has a problem without checking in with what they really want or need.
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